When I lost my job last year, it wasn’t just employment I lost—it was a sense of connection, purpose, and community. Suddenly, I found myself confined to a space that seemed to shrink with each passing day, leaving me feeling more isolated than ever.

The redundancy came out of nowhere, disrupting the rhythm of my life. From managing a packed schedule to deafening silence, my idea of work-life balance was turned on its head. I used to work in the city, enjoying a hybrid setup that allowed me to collaborate with colleagues, share ideas, and socialize. That routine of connection and shared purpose was replaced by endless job applications, solitary walks in the suburbs, and a stream of rejections—or worse, complete silence from the other side.

What I initially thought would be a brief employment gap stretched on far longer than I could have anticipated. Six months of applications later, I found myself dreading the simple act of pressing the "Apply" button. What started as resilience and optimism gave way to self-doubt and anxiety, as I questioned my own capabilities and worth. The emotional toll of repeated rejection left me feeling worn out, caught in a cycle of self-pity and uncertainty about whether I would ever return to the workforce.

How I Kept My Head Afloat

I knew this couldn't go on forever, but I wasn’t sure what to change, as so much felt out of my control. I had to actively work on keeping my head above water—not just for my career, but for my mental well-being and my family. Here’s what helped me navigate this tough phase:

• Gone Physical
  My mornings became a ritual of achievement. I started attending group classes like spinning and body pump circuits at the gym early in the morning. By 7:30 AM, I already felt like a winner, starting my day with a sense of accomplishment that carried me forward.
• Taking a Break from Job Search
  Instead of blindly applying, I began calling recruiters before submitting applications. Sometimes they were kind enough to inform me that the job was already filled; other times, I encountered silence. But this small act gave me clarity and saved me from the endless void of unanswered applications.
• Self-Help Audiobooks
  It was hard to admit that I needed help, and seeking professional assistance felt out of reach. Instead, I turned to self-help audiobooks. They gave me a new perspective and strategies to regain control over my emotions and thoughts.
• Helping Friends and Ex-Colleagues with Their Work
  It may sound counterintuitive, but helping others helped me. I reached out to five friends and ex-colleagues and asked for an hour each week to assist them with their work. I was honest about my situation and told them I needed this to maintain my sanity. These sessions brought back my confidence, reignited social connections, and even got me occasional trips to the city for a drink.
• Asking for Referrals
  This is how I eventually landed my current job! I asked friends and ex-colleagues to refer my CV to hiring managers in their companies. Before applying to jobs on LinkedIn, I would connect with someone at the company and ask for a referral. This approach not only increased my chances but also made the process feel more human.

What's Next?

I’m fortunate to have work now, but this experience taught me the importance of life beyond work. Building social connections and finding something meaningful to hold on to are essential. After losing my job, I felt like I was losing my grip on everything else.

Today, I continue to practice what I learned during that difficult time—whether it’s staying active, helping others, or prioritising personal growth. These habits not only helped me through the tough times but are also helping me thrive now. And for that, I am grateful.